Unequally Yoked with a Mormon - 11/24/2003

To whom it may concern,
I need help to know what to do concerning my sister who has been seeing a mormon man for the past couple of years. She claims to be a Christian but doesn't seem to care what the christians in her life are telling her about his and her relationship according to the Bible, the Lord. My sister and her Mormon boyfriend want to come to my house for Thanksgiving and I don't want him to come if it would be wrong according to what the Lord says in His Word. As of right now I feel it would be wrong to sit at my table and share a meal with a man who is a Mormon who is most likely in the sin of fornication with my sister. They spend some weekends together. At one time she said he was keeping himself pure so he could attain priesthood since he had become excommunicated because of a divorce. At that time he was working on getting back into the Mormon church I guess, in the priesthood. I need to know if I would be in sin, if I would be compromising or condoning their relationship by allowing him to come with her. I've been upset about this relationship ever since it started and it is hard for me to believe she would ask if he could come. It will cause some upsets and maybe strife in our family if I say no. My family doesn't understand the seriousness of her being unequally yoked with an unbeliever. I was wondering if the scripture in Second John applies to my situation," If anyone comes to you and does not bring this doctrine do not receive him into your house nor greet him." I just want to be obedient to the Lord. Is it possible that the Lord would want us to welcome him and show him the true love of Jesus in hopes he would get saved? I appreciate any counsel you would have for me. Your ministry has been a blessing to me. Thank you so much for your website.


Hi Beth. Thanks for writing to Contender Ministries. We understand and share your disapproval of your sister being unequally yoked. However, we strongly believe that the Christ-like thing to do would be to welcome him for dinner. Jesus routinely ate with sinners - tax collectors, prostitutes, and others that man rejected. He did so to show His love for them, and also to teach them. Thanksgiving dinner might just be a good opportunity to show this man the love of Christ in action, and even speak to him about the gospel if the opportunity arises. We are to hate the sin, but love the sinner. Don't let your hate for the sin obscure your love for the sinner. Welcome him into your home and let the love of Christ shine through you. It'll ultimately make you a more effective witness for Christ.

In Him,

Ben and Jennifer Rast
Contender Ministries